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Father-Daughter Dances No More

The music is over for father-daughter dances in the Cranston schools after a complaint from the ACLU that they violate state law. What do you think?

What do you think about the ban on father-daughter dances in Cranston? Let us know in the comments.

Earlier in the school year, parents were notified that father-daughter and mother-son activities will no longer be held in the schools because school lawyers concluded they violate state laws.

The action was triggered by a letter from the American Civil Liberties Union, said Cranston Superintendent Judith Lundsten. The letter was written on behalf of a mother who said her daughter was unable to go to the father-daughter dance.

Federal laws under Title IX allow father-son and mother-daughter events, but state law is more restrictive, Lundsten said.

The change in policy occurred without any public discussion and the School Committee did not vote for any change. The issue could easily be fixed by inserting language in the state law that mirrors federal Title IX policy, according to Republican Sean Gately, a candidate for Rhode Island's District 25 House seat.

What do you think?

Lorraine F September 18, 2012 at 02:52 PM
All I can say is that it's becoming exhausting paying attention to all of these fringe issues (sex changes for convicts, high school banners that become cash cows for the ACLU, special ed that costs over $60K per student, sanctuary cities that can only exist through bankruptcy, affordable housing that describes a person earning $75K per year as needing special help, plastic bag bans within a town that can be escaped by driving a couple of miles) I'm just glad I'm too old to worry.
Bear401 September 18, 2012 at 03:03 PM
In my opinion the mistake was made when the student was not allowed to attend the dance. Granted it was a "father-daughter" event but to isolate that student from it didn't sound right. There are kids all over the state who are part of single parent families. Are we going to isolate them as well & possibly make them feel inferior to the other students who are part of two aprent families?
Manifold Witness September 18, 2012 at 03:09 PM
The mom is on the radio with John Depetro right now. The girl could have attended the dance with someone else. The school would have allowed it. The mom then complained to the RIACLU who complained to the school about the "exclusive" nature of the dance. The mom chose not to have her daughter go to the dance with anyone else. The RIACLU then contacted the school about the "exclusive" nature of the dance. She seems happy the dance & the Mother/son dance was cancelled. Federal law allows the dance. State law does not.
Lynda September 18, 2012 at 05:36 PM
What ever happened to the concept of a father-daughter dance's purpose being..... ....for a caring, gentlemanly man/father to demonstrate how a gentleman treats a lady, and THAT is the expectation with which she should approach dating and marriage?????????
Allison September 18, 2012 at 05:54 PM
I have to agree that the student should have been allowed to participate, what kind of people are we if we choose to exclude?
Lorraine F September 18, 2012 at 06:09 PM
Allison, The girl was not "excluded" from the dance and could have gone with a person of her choice.
East Bay Elite September 18, 2012 at 06:23 PM
Love the conclusion to your comment! Great silver lining :-)
East Bay Elite September 18, 2012 at 06:29 PM
In my opinion, the only issue here would be if the school had prohibited the student from attending the dance; as that did not happen, this should NOT be an issue. I remember attending father-daughter dances with my father, and they were fun, memorable, and meaningful. To ban this practice all together is not only extreme, but completely unnecessary. Just because some students may not have the ability to attend with their fathers should not ruin the tradition for everyone else; it's akin to saying, "I'm bald, so I want to ban all barber shops on earth." It's all absurd. And also a top story on AOL...because of its absurdity.
Jordans gma September 18, 2012 at 11:30 PM
This world will not be happy untill we outlaw all things wholesome. Must we must all become PC in everything we do? It is crazy to stop a tridition, what next? No prayer in school? Oh Wait....
P. Dulchinos September 19, 2012 at 11:48 AM
How about we just call them parent child dances and call it a day
Sally September 19, 2012 at 12:53 PM
Rediculous. I recently accompanied my neice to a grandparents' day event because her grandparents couldn't make it. She and I had a great time and no one even seemed to notice or care. People need to stop crying out for "justice" every single time they feel slighted. Instead, how about picking ourselves up out of the puddle of tears we've created and finding alternative and happy solutions for ourselves? Couldn't an uncle, cousin, neighbor, family friend or other person have accompanied this young woman to the father/daughter dance? What are we teaching our children when instead of showing them how to find solutions we highlight our challenges and dwell on them? This slippery slope is a dangerous one indeed. Where does it end? What if a parent can't attend a school event like a concert or science fair because they work the evening shift? What if a parent is ill or infirm and can't make it? What if a parent simply doesn't like to dance? I do feel for this young woman, but we all have our own challenges. How we rise up to meet those challenges is what defines us.
Jedd Sullivan September 21, 2012 at 06:39 PM
Given that we have entered into a social contract to live under the "Rule of Law", we are bound to obey our laws, and-or to practice civil disobedience to demonstrate our objections to a law, and-or to work to have a law we feel is inappropriate repealed. Arbitrarily picking and choosing which laws we will obey or ignore undermines the "Rule of Law" and undermines our society. Make sane, useful laws, repeal "dead wood" laws, support the Rule of Law on which our individual and collective rights, freedoms, and responsibities are founded. Democracy requires an educated, aware, thoughtful, and engaged citizenry that actively embraces our responsibilities to ourselves, each other, and to our society. Irresponsible individualism is just narcissistic self-indulgence which leads ultimately to anarchy.

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